As I read the article I looked for trends that Faludi adresses in the Terror Dream. I was wondering whether or not this article would be pro-family or would go against the trends and support the single adults. I knew the journalist would not outright take a side but I thought I'd be able to weed out which side was being victimized and which villainized. Quotes such as the one above make parents seem somewhat entitled, but also make single adults in the area seem whiny and childish for complaining about a stroller and going so far as to say people shouldn't have kids if they don't have a plan for going grocery shopping with a stroller. Some bars in areas of cities that are experiencing an increase in families with children are having "Baby happy hours," to the chagrin of some single adults. Apparently, babies are ruining the mood for adults trying to mix and mingle. One of the bartenders quoted in the article argued that these singles should just come after eight oclock if they wish not to be in the presence of children. Eight oclock is not exactly late, and children characteristically go to bed early, so these people whining in the article about children ruining bar atmosphere makes the singles seem nasty and silly.
A lot of the quotes made parents in these neighborhoods seem to be the innocent victims. Not many parents were quoted in ways that made the reader balk at their self-righteousness or sense of entitlement. The statement made by the dog owner that parents should confine children to a playground area was posed as an injustice to the parents. They were trying to enjoy the outdoors and animals were being allowed to attack their children. The overall mood of the article, while well disguised, was that parents who were trying to move into cities were being met with hostility and grouchy middle aged singles. The article made all adults, single or married without children, in the areas of increased family moving ins, seem incredibly self-righteous and naive. It overgeneralized how people feel about children and parents, and left the parents blameless. If someone repeatedly tripped over a parents' stroller on the subway it would be very annoying and potentially dangerous. Yet, the families are the ones being victimized. The whole article left me feeling as if I should be rooting for the parents, and encouraging them to hang in there. It was a pro-family article, balancing traditional family values of parents spending time with their children with modern trends of families with kids moving back into cities. It definitely followed a few of the trends Faludi discussed as appearing in the media in post-911 America, as it placed an emphasis on the family and parents doing traditional things with children, like taking them to the park. All the families discussed in the article seemed loving and kind, and the single adults seemed bitter and cold. The safety risks and inconveniences posed by parents who feel entitled to the world were hardly addressed. I was driving through Boston last weekend and a woman cut across the street with her child in a stroller even though the walk sign was off and it was a green light. Of course, I was going to stop the car, but the fact that she endangered herself, her child, and the motorists was striking. Parents who feel that kids give them the ability to do whatever they want, because kids are so hard to deal with or because children should be the number one priority of every American, is an issue, one that wasn't addressed in the article even though it easily could have been.
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